AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Couple / Relationship Counselor in Colorado and Hawaii

My counseling services are provided via Telehealth (online/video and via phone)–with no in-person appointments. I am licensed as a LPC/MHC to work with residents of Colorado or Hawaii only.

Working together from a strengths-based, sex-positive, and intuitive approach, I can support you with…

• Cultivating greater connection and communication, in order to repair old wounds and create new understandings in your intimate relationship(s)–whether monogamous or non-monogamous (or anything in between)

• Finding greater awareness and ways of working with underlying causes of compulsive sexual behavior, while developing sexuality/sex that is nourishing to you (and your relationship)–rather than just refraining from unwanted sexual behavior

• Exploring and bringing greater clarity to sex and sexuality: from sexual trauma; identity and expressions of gender; sexual attractions; sex/intimacy; sexual performance and functioning; kink/BDSM; to non-monogamy (and more!)

Scott Church, MA, LPC/MHC, NCC (Co-Owner)
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST)

He/him/his
I consider myself to be kind/caring, warm, open-minded/non-judgmental, compassionate, empathic, and intuitive. I strongly believe that people are inherently healthy, which extends to sexuality, sexual expression, sexual behavior/interests, and intimate relationship(s). We all have the capacity to heal and connect to this inner-wellness with the right conditions and support. It was my own healing process that called me to shift careers, become a sex therapist, and help others cultivate wellness, health, balance, and greater joy and pleasure in their lives. The therapy process is fulfilling to me, and my personal history is relatable to many, if not most, of my clients. I work with clients grappling with issues that I feel passionate about, can connect with, and know can be reframed and/or integrated in a healthy way. It is often not easy to talk about compulsive sexual behavior/sex addiction; sexual abuse; sex and gender issues; non-traditional relationship dynamics; or even traditional relationship problems, which is why I truly believe that finding an open-minded therapist who you can feel safe with and relate to is key to the healing and growing process.

As a gay male and survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I can relate to the confusion and suffering that can arise around sexuality, sex (including sexual behavior that feels out of control), and forming relationships with others. My family shamed sex, ignored sexual abuse, and normalized scapegoating victims. It was through my own healing, however, that I was able to develop a very different, very healthy perspective on sex, sexuality, and sexual expression. As a practicing sex therapist, I do not make sexual behavior or sexual interests the problem. Rather, I help clients identify underlying issues, pain, and trauma; process difficult feelings; relate to their experiences in new, healthy ways; and learn how to engage in sex and sexual/gender expressions that feel whole and nourishing. I do not adhere to any kind of 12-step, abstinence-based program or formulaic approach. I believe that when we begin to reframe our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and perspectives and approach our lives, sexuality, and intimate relationships from a place of abundance and nourishment rather than from a place of longing, shame, or emotional poverty that true healing can occur and long-term shifts can be experienced. I deeply relate to this work and will embrace you, your questions, and your struggles with genuine openness, curiosity, and compassion.

I welcome and celebrate diversity in gender, sexual orientation, and sexual expression in my practice. I feel proud to serve individuals, those in relationships, sex workers/escorts, and those from communities across the spectrum. I work with people who identify as straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, queer, asexual, transsexual, transgender, cisgender, or binary, hold a completely sex-positive perspective, and engage each of my clients with a receptive, inquisitive mind. I also really enjoy facilitating relationship counseling of all kinds. I work with straight and same sex couples and open/poly relationships and help clients communicate about sex from everything to vanilla to kink. Like most effective sex therapists, I approach my practice from a place of non-judgment. What sets me apart, however, is that both professionally and personally, I truly believe that a healthy relationship to any and all forms of sexuality, sexual expression, and sexual behavior/interests is possible. I am interested in and supportive of all kinds of sex, sexual and gender expressions, and intimate relationships. There is not much that clients share with me that I have not directly or indirectly experienced myself and found health and wellness in. I sincerely believe that all forms of sex and expression can be nourishing, safe, healthy, and positive.

I am trained and practiced in many modalities that promote mindfulness/awareness and integrate the mind and body, including Somatic Experiencing (SE), a highly effective approach that facilitates the somatic processing of trauma; Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which helps clients work toward acceptance, cultivate self-love, make friends with all parts of themselves, and build a strong sense of identity and confidence; and Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), a framework that encourages couples to gain clarity around their individual thoughts and feelings in order to better understand, be attuned to and care for their partner. I continue to train in these modalities and others, especially those that integrate the mind and body. I also understand that every client and relationship is unique, so while I often draw from these modalities, I always work in the moment and create a therapeutic approach that best addresses your specific history, personality, needs, desires, concerns, and goals.

Although I am passionate about the work I do with clients and take an active interest in learning about sexuality and psychology, I also spend time fostering the health of my spirituality,  personal relationship(s) and sexual interests. I love music–my first career was in the music industry. I spend time playing guitar and writing music. In addition to my regular contemplative practice, I have found music be one of the truest forms of mindfulness and meditation; it helps to keep me balanced and happy.

Scott Church earned his Master of Arts in Contemplative Counseling Psychology from Naropa University with additional coursework in Human Sexuality and Transforming Addictions. He is currently a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC.0015255) in the state of Colorado and a Mental Health Counselor in the state of Hawaii (MHC-750-0), as well as a National Certified Counselor (NCC). He is trained and practiced in Sex Therapy (AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST)), Somatic Experiencing (SE), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).

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